Ever had your worst case scenario become your best case scenario? A nightmare that turns into a dream come true? Sometimes, our life’s most tragic and consequential events allow for revelations to unfold. My revelation happened during a cold, April rain at my family’s boat yard:
I worked in a beautiful setting with my family. When an unplanned change was made in the midst of our success, the whole dynamic of the company shifted. After months of tolerating the discord, an unanticipated, emotional conversation occurred bringing everything into focus for me.
On the surface, I’m certain many would describe my choice to leave my family’s business as a midlife crisis. On the contrary, my desire to leave was born the day I started.
For the 18 years I worked at the boat yard, apathy quietly simmered below the surface. I was complacent. Existing on autopilot after relinquishing control of my life’s direction, experiencing little to no passion or purpose. I mean, it wasn’t all terrible. I had a nice view, a great salary, lots of freedom and there were even a few dogs. But, I had settled into a hollow professional life.
There is a HUGE difference between living your life and tolerating it.
The good news is - Discontent is the pathway to Revelation.
My revelation was that I actually did have a passion. I had felt a spark in Psychology 101 in college, yet I ignored my calling and, out of obligation, settled for the easy, predetermined path that was before me.
Obligation is a very powerful story...
It’s an illusion we believe in because it’s convenient and safe. Like being in a house of mirrors where your reflection is warped - obligation distorts your focus and confuses your intentions.
For me, during that one pivotal conversation in April, the heavy, dense fog of obligation was lifted. I had been telling myself a story. And, in that moment, all my options became clear. Who I wanted to be and how I wanted to live my life meant it was time to move on.
As I shared my revelation with a childhood friend, she made a suggestion - what about life coaching? My response was, “WTF is life coaching?” So I started poking around online and that was it. What came next brought my true life’s purpose into view. I trained, studied, and earned my professional coaching certifications from the Coaches Training Institute and the International Coaching Federation.
That was nearly a decade ago.
In that one moment you go from living life on autopilot to I don’t want to live like this anymore.
Revelation is the doorway out of complacency. Once you walk through the door, you will realize your options. I guarantee you have way more options than you think you do.